Raising a Responsible Child Who Eventually Becomes a Responsible Adult
Every parent wants to raise a child who transforms into a responsible adult. Not every parent eventually manages to raise such responsible kids and it usually lies in what parents do or fail to do in their attempt to raise such kids. Many kids these days live a life of entitlement and very little in terms of duties is required of them at home.
Giving tasks to your children could be one way of ensuring you are instilling responsibility in them. For most parents who are perfectionists, they will prefer to do the task themselves instead of waiting to assess and correct the mistakes of their children. Sometimes you will accept half-hearted efforts because maybe the kids gave it a try which isn’t wrong but when it becomes a trend, it should be rectified. Sometimes you should leave children to solve a problem on their own since whenever you do the work and sought it all for them, you might be implying they are not capable of doing it on their own. The very simple and underestimated tasks like keeping toys at a certain location after use could be the key to teaching responsibility to even toddlers.
Just like in other goals, planning on how to do your job as a parent cannot be underestimated. Practicing what you are teaching your child is key since they will learn more from your actions therefore to teach them the art of communication, learn to communicate with them. To engage them in problem solving especially in their own messes, try to hear their possible solutions instead of always imposing your ideas on them. When forced to be grateful, maybe to say thanks, a child will not mean it but if they are taught with love the importance of being grateful, they might be responsible in their interactions with others. As you work on them it’s important to ensure you don’t label your children as irresponsible as they might be discouraged and take it on yet they still have room for learning. An aspect of responsibility is keeping time and commitments which you can instill in your children by teaching them to write a schedule.
An effort to make your children learn how to accept their mistakes instead of trying to accuse someone else could go a long way. Finding someone who you can depend on means they are honest with you and therefore it should not be underestimated in teaching responsibility to children. Your actions should communicate unconditional love to your children as this will give them courage to even take risks and make mistakes knowing you got their back. With cases of self esteem issues, it’s important to ensure your child knows how to deal with self issues as it’s part of self responsibility.